From the desk of ... Mary Robinson Reynolds
Re: How to Work Energetically with People who Drive you CRAZY ... Part 4
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As a child, I was on the receiving end of my parents' negatively labeling me to shame, humiliate and guilt me into behaving: "problem child, too loud, show off, too talkative, too sensitive, a nuisance, a bother, trouble, stubborn, irresponsible..." (I was 4 years old when I was called irresponsible! Really?!)
My parents were much like the author on parenting whose first chapter of her NY Times bestselling book is titled, Exposing the Brat Factor! ... in which she labels (vilifies) children with "attitude problems" by calling them...
"Selfish Sheila, the Terminator, Cruella De Vil, Napoleon Complex Couch Potato, In Your Face, Mr. Bigot, Drama Queen Little Princess, Mr. Fresh Prince, Con Artist, Donald Trump, Poor Me "
The only person with an attitude problem is any adult who uses labels like these. Here are a few more that I overheard at a restaurant recently, which I believe are going to create a significant disconnect for parent and child down the road: "My little bundle of trouble" and "My tiny terrorist."
I don't know about you, but if I was a child being called any of these names by my parents, siblings or teachers, I'd have a BIG HONKIN' attitude too! (In fact I DID have a problem with my parents labeling of me, and because of this, I never once labeled any of our children or any student I taught.)
These labels are not funny. They are attitudinally and energetically 100% inflammatory. They are ALL hurtful and harmful to the hearts, minds and souls of the children whose parents subscribe to this type of labeling. The same is true in the workplace and in our most intimate relationships.
And then, when individuals reach their limit, we blame it on "mental illness" as if that explains everything, and everyone who has ever been involved in that person's life had nothing whatsoever to do with what accumulated repeatedly over time within that person's psyche each time they were looked at with disdain, disapproval and disappointment.
If you want to keep your job, if you really love your children and spouse, stop labeling people negatively and you will get a different result immediately!
So by now I hope you are thinking, "There's GOT TO BE A BETTER WAY!" to work with people who are very difficult for me to communicate with... because I'm here to tell you, THERE IS!
There is a BETTER WAY RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU today and it WORKS to bring people together SYNERGISTICALLY.
It's all provided for you in my Connecting with Colors® UTrain® Program and the companion book, Connecting with Colors: Discover the Transformational Synergy of Personality Color Styles to Create Harmonious Relationships at Work, Home & Everywhere!
And to answer your Question: "Isn't Color Personality Styles a form of labeling?"
Answer: Yes! It is labeling in the affirmative. It SHIFTS energy upward, provided you don't throw a negative attitude in on top of it.
The primary focus of my Color Personality Styles system is upon the Strengths.
After working with 20,000 people in just a two year period, what I discovered is that it is not about weaknesses, it's about being too strong in our predominant style that can be problematic.
In my book, I show you exactly how to dial-in the other Color Styles you need to synergize the situations you are in.
If you want to see something healthy and humorous ... watch this! As you will be able to see by the audiences reactions, they are feeling better about themselves and each other; and people that feel better, do better!
A Great example of LAUGHING AT OURSELVES & WITH EACH OTHER!
CONNECTION Turns "Me" into "We" = SYNERGY
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Leaps of FAITH happen when the pain of "staying put" exceed the fear of the unknown. Understand, that the right kind of information can CALM the seas, rather than rock the boat you are afraid of rocking!
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Reaching out to make a positive difference ...
Mary Robinson Reynolds
Author & Founder, Heart Productions & Publishing
makeadifference.com/Colors
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