Dear Difference Maker,

During a recent training, I did a little work with a lovely, caring woman who stated, "I've done everything I know how to do to help my sister with her abusive husband, and nothing has worked."

In situations like these I have found that it's entirely possible that two variables are in play:

1) Everything that's been 'tried' has been solely from the Color Personality Style of the person who is suffering and not succeeding at getting things turned around for the better and...

2) That too much advice-giving and commiserating has been going on, and not enough investigation AND learning a new Skill Set has been considered. The person suffering is doing so only because they "think" that there is no solution - "This person is impossible!" - when it's a Skill Set issue.

The solutions you seek do not reside in trying harder at what you've already tried from YOUR Color Personality Style ... it's about expanding YOUR Skill Set to learn how to Dial In another person's Color Personality Style before you communicate anything at all... let alone anything that's really important to you!

Reaching out ...

Mary Robinson Reynolds
Author & Founder of Heart Productions & Publishing
makeadifference.com/Colors

PS... And this Just in!

I took the Work PSP - Personality Styles Profile - Report and it has quite a bit of good information. I am still going through it... I like your terminology ("dial in the other color styles") because it reminds me that WE have to make the effort to communicate with the other colors if WE want to be successful. Thank you!
- Pat Freddi, Human Resources

To learn how to turn "Me" into "We" take your own PSP - Personality Styles Profile at: www.ConnectingwithColors.com/PSP

The Cruel Frog Experiment

Several experiments involving the recording the reaction of frogs to slowly heated water took place in the 19th century, which even though cruel, illustrate what can happen when we live an unexamined life:

Phase 1 of the experiment: The scientists dropped a frog into scalding water. The frog jumped out immediately, and saved its own life by doing so. You and I would do the same. If we find ourselves in extreme pain or imminent danger, we will flee immediately.

Phase 2 of the experiment: The scientists then put the frog in a pan with tepid water and placed the pan on a burner. The fire under the pan was turned up ever so slowly, until ultimately it was boiling. The frog did not jump out and ultimately died.

This animal cruelty experiment illustrates that, in NOT doing anything productive about difficult people or challenging life situations, we literally set ourselves up for undesirable experiences.

What might happen if you started to deal directly with the people or situations in your life that are giving you the most challenge right now from your current Skill Set?

The Catch-22 - what's going on is currently undesirable - BUT - if we speak up using the current SKILL SET we've been using, it's possible that it's going to get more undesirable ... Right?

Here are some poisonous Frog Speak Reasons we tell ourselves to let well enough alone...

• I am powerless to change things.
• I have no control anyway, why bother?
• This is just too hard.
• There will be backlash - hell to pay!
• They will turn it around on me and tell me I'm the crazy one.
• It takes too much time and energy to bother with this person. They are impossible.
• What's the use, they will never change.
• I hate upsetting anyone when asking them to change.

And the most debilitating of them all, in Frog Speak:

• It's not that bad!

Frog Reactions: Some of the current ways we've been handling difficult people and situations in the present and past that are not working is that we ...

• Get angry
• Get in people's faces
• Emotionally check out
• Leave the room, leave the relationship
• Minimize or bypass it all together
• Use blame, shame, guilt and our disappointment to get them to GET IT
• Become invisible

I think you can see that it's a Catch-22.

So in that way, we are like the frog, but the undercurrents are always there with the potential to heat up and affect our health, energy and state of mind; we're not doing anything to remedy the situation because we don't have the knowledge.

I know what it means to rationalize with FROG SPEAK Reasons ... in just
4 short years my life, I went from being a highly successful educator to feeling like someone was running their fingernails down the blackboard of my soul.

In 1984, I lost my first child at birth, a year later I had a high-risk pregnancy, the next year after our son was born I divorced my husband, the year after that I moved to a new state, and when all of my job prospects and interview feel through, I was now a single mother of a two year old emotionally and physically burned out and literally living on pennies.

With the precious exception of my wonderful son, I had somehow managed to get everything in life I did not want!

Why did all of this happen? LIFE WAS DEMANDING that I BE more, not expend more. That I take it upon myself to learn empowering skills on how to deal with my adult relationships much more effectively.

That's where the Color Personality Styles information comes in ...

AND so ... Don't be a FROG - Take Action!

Grab my new easy to read book and FEEL better fast
and GET CONTROL of your life! www.ConnectingwithColors.com/Book

"Connecting with Colors: Discover the Transformational Synergy of Personality Color Styles to Create Harmonious Relationships at Work, Home & Everywhere!

Knowledge is power - Oprah Winfrey

Have you registered for my CWC Certification Virtual Bootcamp yet?

It's not too late!

Whether you have your own business or are working at a J-O-B (Just Over Broke), are getting ready for your Encore Career or 2nd Act Career this just may be the fit you've been looking for.

In this video, I visit with you about how
"my thing" will work with "your thing" to build a highly lucrative Speaking, Training and Coaching business or expand your reach within your existing business (consulting, coaching, training, speaking, counseling, health professional) with my Connecting with Colors® program.

Watch the Video here www.ConnectingwithColors.com/Facilitator

Did you miss my TeleCall last week?

Here's a copy of the recording of my COMPLIMENTARY training "5-Steps to a 6-Figure Income Speaking with Connecting with Colors as a Certified Facilitator" Just go here to listen or to download your recording.

As always, I make it super easy and fun.

Class is GREAT! Click here to listen to what one participant is saying about "How soon can I expect to start get speaking engagements?"

PS ... Please Note: our Special Early Early Bird $997 ENDs Thursday at Midnight and CWC Facilitator Training goes back up to $2997.

PPS ... I am available today for any Questions and/or conversations you may wish to have. You are welcome to either email me directly at: support(a)makeadifference.com or call our answering service at: 800-639-8191 and I will return your call as soon as possible today.

Is there a Pull in You to Speak that Won't Leave You Alone?

From your vision and goals to your offers, skills, and your mindset - speakers who succeed are always stretching themselves to better their best.

As a speaker you have the potential to inspire extraordinary numbers of people via your teleseminars, workshops, programs, products and even through your presence. Which means it's critical that you surround yourself with people and experiences that will pull you up and motivate and inspire you in a BIG way.

Do You feel very strongly that you need to get out there and speak, or do you already LOVE Speaking, but don't know how to Open Doors? If so, it may be that This Is For You, but Decide! There is limited seating - Will Your Name Be On One?

Many of the speaking industry's top income earning speakers - names you would definitely recognize - dramatically accelerated their results by having a talk that Opened Doors and then followed same steps I created in building a Multiple-6-Figure Annual Income with my Connecting with Colors® talk and training.

Why? Because practically speaking, once you find that Door Opener, you can use it until the cows come home, and my Connecting with Colors® - CWC training includes the Signature Talk and the training that Opens Doors, all of the done-for-you templates, checklists, business materials, marketable content and best of all, grow your email list, that you need to remove any limits on your speaking income and success.

Energetically, CWC is an extraordinary opportunity to up-level everything about yourself and your business, transforming how you think, feel and succeed as a speaker, trainer and coach.

Plus, CWC is the ONLY way to get up close and personal speaker training with me, in an intimate group, which means you're getting my personal attention, intuition and mastery focused on YOU and making excellent progress with your certification.

Connecting with Colors® - CWC - is truly life-altering!

Learn more: www.ConnectingwithColors.com/FACILITATOR