From the desk of ... Mary Robinson Reynolds
Re: How to Work Energetically with Difficult People ... Part 3
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Have you ever noticed the kind of training the major seminar companies are promoting?
I just received a promotion for a seminar on How To Deal with Difficult People, and I'd like to draw your attention to what's being taught at our places of work which I believe is causing more harm than good.
Here's what they are teaching and promoting:
Do you recognize these people?
The Know-It-Alls, The Passives, The Dictators,
The "Yes" People, The "No" People, The Gripers.
How does "name calling" and condescending labeling like this help?
It's like pushing a person to the ground, putting your foot on their shoulder to hold them down and then yelling, "GET UP!"
This seminar company also has another training about how to handle negativity in the workplace. This training focuses upon 14 different types of Negaholics:
The Perfectionist. The Never-Good-Enough Person. The Slave Driver. The Procrastinator. The Pattern Repeater. The Never-Measure-Up Person. The Constant Critic. The Comparing Contestant. The Retroactive Fault-Finder. The Premature Invalidator. The Beartrapper. The Constant Complainer. The Herald of Disaster. The Gloom and Doomer.
Really?! RU kidding me!? Talk about having an ATTITUDE! And I'm not talking about the those being accused of being negative. I am talking about the seminar leaders!
How can you give someone a label like any of these and NOT have it energetically smack dab in the middle of every conversation you are having with them?
And you wonder why there is back-lash?! ...why it feels like those being labeled are immoveable, belligerent, oppositional and impossible to deal with!
Whatever you FOCUS UPON EXPANDS, magnifies and grows exponentially!
Think about it: How can condescending name calling help you handle negativity in the workplace and fix the negativity of people who are already struggling (if not suffering)?
So, the ERRONEOUS THINKING is that, by labeling people who are simply UNSKILLFUL at being productive team players with these kind of labels, we are going to get them to want to work synergistically with us!
Again I say, "Really?!"
So by now I hope you are thinking, "There's GOT TO BE A BETTER WAY!" to work with people who are very difficult for me to communicate with... because I'm here to tell you, THERE IS!
There is a BETTER WAY RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU today and it WORKS to bring people together SYNERGISTICALLY.
It's all provided for you in my newest, easy to read book, Connecting with Colors: Discover the Transformational Synergy of Personality Color Styles to Create Harmonious Relationships at Work, Home & Everywhere!
And to answer your Question: "Isn't Color Personality Styles a form of labeling?"
Answer: Yes! It is labeling in the affirmative. It SHIFTS energy upward, provided you don't throw a negative attitude in on top of it.
The primary focus of my Color Personality Styles system is upon the Strengths.
After working with 20,000 people in just a two year period, what I discovered is that it is not about weaknesses, it's about being too strong in our predominant style that can be problematic.
In my book, I show you exactly how to dial-in the other Color Styles you need to synergize the situations you are in.
If you want to see something healthy and humorous ... watch this! As you will be able to see by the audiences reactions, they are feeling better about themselves and each other; and people that feel better, do better!
A Great example of LAUGHING AT OURSELVES & WITH EACH OTHER!
In the audience that evening:
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"Thanks so much for coming to New Richmond and sharing your Connecting with Colors book and presentation with our community. Both are humorous, enlightening, and very entertaining. My husband attended as well and has been telling everyone he has met this week about how interesting the information was. He has also been paying closer attention to how others are communicating with him so as to better understand their communication style and adapt his behavior. It’s really been a noticeable change!"
Leaps of FAITH happen when the pain of "staying put" exceed the fear of the unknown. Understand, that the right kind of information can CALM the seas, rather than rock the boat you are afraid of rocking!
Get a book for everyone you know! (special quantity pricing)
Reaching out to make a positive difference ...
Mary Robinson Reynolds
Author & Founder, Heart Productions & Publishing
makeadifference.com/Colors
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