From the desk of ... Mary Robinson Reynolds
Re: [How to] Work Energetically with Difficult People...Part 1
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My introduction to personality styles began in 1994 when I was about to begin working as a seminar trainer for a national seminar company.
I attended the presentation of one of their seasoned trainers during a full-day seminar entitled, How To Deal With Difficult People.
We each took a personality test in our workbooks and then the speaker began his humorous interpretation of each of the styles. This particular assessment was created by Virginia Satir and it included personalities styles labeled: Blamer, Placater, Computer, Distracter and Leveler.
The speaker had the entire audience laughing until they cried. He had me laughing too, at first, but then I gradually became more and more agitated about what I understood my husband's style to be.
By the time I got home that night, I was so upset about my husband's personality style that it launched us into another round of our same old, drag-out power struggle. Another de-energizing disconnection for us both.
Both of us ended up being upset, exhausted and needing a "time out" to our separate corners of the house.
That night, in my corner of the house, I made a decision. Once again, I could see the power of the label and the inflammatory effects on the person receiving the "label."
I decided that this experience offered me the opportunity to turn sarcastic and demoralizing labels into energetically neutral personality style descriptions that were empowering and transformative.
As I designed my personal interpretation of Satir's work, I simply turned the information around. I re-labeled her descriptions using very specific, affirmative language, adding a light, humorous spin so people would be able to feel the relief of a new understanding of themselves and others!
And ... Voilá! MAJOR ENERGY SHIFT for the better because you simply can not have a negative - resistive - attitude about someone and keep it a secret ... eh?!
There are a lot of ways to do personality styles ... BUT there is a BETTER WAY RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU and it WORKS to bring people together SYNERGISTICALLY.
It's all provided for you in my newest, easy to read book, Connecting with Colors: Discover the Transformational Synergy of Personality Color Styles to Create Harmonious Relationships at Work, Home & Everywhere!
In my book I show you exactly how to dial-in the other Color Styles you need to synergize the situations you are in.
If you want to see something healthy and humorous ... watch this! As you will be able to see by the audiences reactions, that are feeling better about themselves and each other; and people that feel better, do better!
A Great example of LAUGHING AT OURSELVES & WITH EACH OTHER!
In the audience that evening:
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"Thanks so much for coming to New Richmond and sharing your Connecting with Colors book and presentation with our community. Both are humorous, enlightening, and very entertaining. My husband attended as well and has been telling everyone he has met this week about how interesting the information was. He has also been paying closer attention to how others are communicating with him so as to better understand their communication style and adapt his behavior. It’s really been a noticeable change!"
Leaps of FAITH happen when the pain of "staying put" exceed the fear of the unknown. Understand, that the right kind of information can CALM the seas, rather than rock the boat you are afraid of rocking!
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Reaching out to make a positive difference ...
Mary Robinson Reynolds
Author & Founder, Heart Productions & Publishing
makeadifference.com/Colors
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