1. Recognize something good about that person. Draw them into a light and easy going conversation about what you've notice and appreciate about them; their strength, talent, smile, smarts, eyes, humor/wit, passion for something.
2. LISTEN to their response: If they say what's great about them is "nothing..." tell them it's not "nothing" to you and that it makes a difference to you.
3. Ask them how they are today. LISTEN to their response. Based on what they say, ask if there is something you can do to help. Ask if there is something they would like for you to SEE (visualize) and Believe for them?
4. Ask if it's OK for you to give them a hug, a pat on the shoulder or back, or give them a fist bump.
As you see their new Successes, Celebrate with them as often as you notice them!
NOTICE: Now... what happened to your loneliness, anger, depression? What matters now? What does support feel like to you as you learn to give it away?
If you want support... give it away.
5. Go find another someone. It can be a person of any age. Give them your smile so they can have one of their own.
GUIDELINES TO A SUCCESSFUL EXPERIENCE
Regarding colleagues, family members, neighborhoods and the popular cliques that are NOT YET safe for you : There is no need to start in places or situations where you already know that you are not wanted or respected.
It's a great thing to have the courage to acknowledge someone who may be a bully, because it can be life changing for you both. AND you don't have to start there.
This first day and week is about having SUCCESS one step, one day at a time, so you can work your way up to meet your bigger fears.
PRACTICE daily by going first to where the REAL need is: people who have their heads down, are discernibly sad, down or isolating themselves.
Look to help people needing help crossing the street, carrying their packages, etc.
Look around your world to people who need just a little help. A little kindness and Acknowledgment goes a LONG WAY!
