You simply cannot have an attitude and keep it a secret! If you don't like an individual, you will not be able to work with them harmoniously or successfully. Your attitude determines whether you are a divider or a unifier. You cannot create synergy from constant discord and fault finding. While you may have concrete evidence that "they" are the problem, without taking the initiative to connect with them from a non-adversarial position you are in fact participating in the problem. You are either contaminating or contributing to an outcome based on what you've decided about any given individual or situation.
If you want an immediate improvement, you must be willing change your attitude: fear, judgments, entitlement, prejudices and condescending labels. In doing this you change your attitudinal energy for the better and this will positively impact and heal unproductive behaviors, seeing better and faster results than you could have imagined.
Change your attitude, and you shift the resistant energy between you and another quickly and in an easy, relaxed manner. The "energy" of your attitude is -- and always will be - the key factor to the success of your interpersonal experiences.
How do you get to alignment? Get really honest with yourself, "What have I really decided about this person?" After you see how you've labeled them, simply decide to pull that attitude of yours back in to your own energy zone. Suspend judgment and you literally make an energetic safe space: an Attitude Free Zone - or AFZ as I like to call it - in an instant. When you do this, you are changing yourself and will powerfully and energetically influence what is happening between you and others involved in a productive direction.
If you don't like something, change it.
If you can't change it, change your attitude.
- Maya Angelou
Section 5: pg 82
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