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My newly released book is a wonderful read for ANY adult who needs healing in their own personal lives.... and often times, this becomes magnified by the children who come into our lives.
Regardless of what you do for a living, when you heal your own inner child, Today's Children - and our society at large - will heal as well.
Over the next 3 days, we are running a 1 -Time Only Introduction 37% Discount Special. This gift book includes 2 Movies on a DVD. The connectionmovie.makeadifference.com and the ofchildrenmovie.makeadifference.com are both on this DVD.
It is my hope that after you read my book you will "be the one" that makes a difference ... by sending my free to read virtual book to every teacher, Principal, Superintendent - decision maker - you know in your community. Either email them this information, or pick up the phone and give them the MakeADifference.com/movies URL address. It's a very easy way to contribute to a larger solution.
Got a problem with a teacher, administrator or parent?
Let this book do the talking.
Here's an excerpt:
Teenagers & Consequences!
If you subscribe to the belief that life is going to be a roller coaster ride when children become teenagers, then that belief is "your attitude," and you are most definitely programming an expectation that will become a self-fulfilling experience.
If your attitude is anything but compassionate positive regard, it is interfering with any attempt to communicate. You must modify your attitude by re-labeling your limited beliefs about what your experience will be with teenagers. Start connecting with compassion. It's not easy for teen-agers to be with adults who consistently launch their negative, limiting "attitudes" at them.
Deborah Yurgelun-Todd is the director of neuro-psychology and cognitive neuro-imaging at McLean Hospital in Belmont, MA. Her recent work suggests that teens' brains actually work differently than adults' when processing emotional information from external stimuli. In a recent study of mapping differences between brains of adults and teens, Todd put teenage and adult volunteers into an MRI and monitored how their brains responded to a series of pictures. The results were surprising. When she examined their brain scans, Todd found that the teenagers were using a different part of their brain when viewing the images.
There was an age-dependent or age-related change between the ages of eleven and seventeen, with the most dramatic difference being in the early teen years. One aspect of the scientists' work has been to look at the frontal part of the brain, which has been known to underlie thought, anticipation, planning and goal-directed behavior. They studied the relationship of this part to the more inferior, or lower part, of the brain, which has been associated with gut responses.
The frontal lobe, the executive region that was studied, is not always functioning fully in teenagers. That would suggest that teenagers aren't thinking through the consequences of their behaviors. Now this explains so much!
One of the implications of this work is that, in relationship to emotional information, the teenager's brain may be responding more with gut reaction - impulsive behavior - than with an executive or measured, thoughtful response.
Realize that, if teenagers are not fully developed in thinking through consequences of their behavior, then younger children certainly are not either.
Shaming children into behaving does not teach them to use their judgment, but rather teaches them that they are incompetent, incapable, irresponsible and inept.
This actually induces more of the unwanted behavior, because we are coming "at" the unwanted behaviors instead of using the language of positive reinforcement, expectation, directives and choices.
Frontal lobe development research now helps us understand how a compassionate response - activating the frontal lobe - to an emotionally upsetting situation soothes problematic behaviors quickly.
This also explains why making desired behavior about the "consequences," rather than teaching choice-making and skill acquisition, does not teach them a lesson!
Repeatedly threatening harsh consequences will never instill the skill acquisition you want to see children and teenagers growing into.
To read more about Deborah Yurgelun-Todd's research findings, go to:
makeadifference.com/teenbrain
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...it's ALL about the Connection
7" X 7" soft cover book, full color 96 pages includes true stories.
The Little Book that Speaks Volumes!
Rich Content that causes Instantaneous Positive Behavioral Change.
...in less than 30 seconds you can change a life for the better by Connecting with Compassionate Attention. Use these powerful stories for trainings & movies for public presentations."
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