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I Don't Even Have to Like You?!
The great thing about Compassion is that you don't even have to like the problematic individual in order for it to change things for the better without much effort or energy on your part!
We all know to some degree or another that we are supposed to be loving. But what about those individuals who you just can't even stand to be around? In my Attitude Alignment ebook, I've written about the power of sending the L-O-V-E vibe as unconditionally as you can. Unconditional love requires a little more ooomph to get rolling than compassion does.
The thing I have come to love about simply thinking compassionate thoughts is that the energy of compassion does the work for me. I may start out feeling great dislike and/or resistance, and by simply making a conscious choice to direct my thoughts to be compassionate, I go from negative to protective ... in less than one minute.
People tell me I'm crazy for giving my book away as an online flash book that you can read and make a world of difference with right now!
The way I look at it, if this book uplifts even one person's day or shifts a difficult relationship ... then that's one person more than yesterday!
The emails we have been receiving say that people who are reading the book are finding themselves changed from the stories and the rich content.
My goal is to reach people who are in the position to make a difference in the largest number of lives possible.
The gift in compassion is that it frees us from attachment to an outcome. When we are free, we are already making a difference by what we then model and are compelled to do for others.
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Access and embrace humanness
To experience the power of compassion, we access and embrace humanness, both our own and that of others. I know you've heard the saying, "Walk a mile in my shoes..." Well, the second you put yourself in someone else's shoes, you begin to connect to the heart of the matter, and therein lies innate compassion. By choosing to feel our own vulnerability, we can then accommodate the vulnerability of another.
By putting compassion first, you actually regulate the reactions that historically have triggered upsetting emotional responses. You can re-wire your impulses. The next time you become aware that you are emotionally triggered by someone's unskillful behavior, immediately visualize a lost, heart-broken child.
What the Teddy story does is it helps you bring a lonely, lost child to mind. If this kind of an image instantly connects you to your heart, then commit it to memory.
If this doesn't do it for you, then find a "heart-connecting" visual that will. You can manage yourself in the heat of any intense moment by shifting your focus to a broken-hearted child. It doesn't matter whether the child you see is a boy or a girl. Whichever connects you to your heart is the one you will use to regulate yourself.
When you focus upon a mental image of a child in pain, you will find that no matter how upset you were a moment ago about whatever happened ...now, it just doesn't have any impact. You'll find yourself literally laying it down, as you embrace the heart of the matter.
Our purpose in life is to make a difference. Compassion doesn't solve problems. It gets you into the best frame of mind and heart to reach beyond where you've gone before. It allows you to find new, creative, peaceful and healing solutions.
Kindness is nice, but compassion gets the job done!
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The great thing about just thinking compassionate thoughts is that you don't have to feel it, to think it. Just being willing to "think" compassionate thoughts is what begins to generate a softening of your heart. When that happens you are able to more readily ...feel the love!
Reaching out...
Mary Robinson
Reynolds
Founder of Heart Productions
& Publishing
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